Perhaps the information in our last few blogs on priestly burnout have convinced you that your problem is a bit more serious than you previously thought. Fortunately, as we learn more about burnout, it is becoming less stigmatized and better understood. It can still be confused with clinical depression though, so please do not hesitate to seek professional help if your symptoms (irritability, exhaustion, decreased productivity, disengagement, etc.) continue for an extended period despite your efforts to change.
An obvious question that you may ask is, “Can I do anything to try and help myself before seeking professional therapy?” The good news is yes, and it is a good place to start. One of the first things you must consider sounds simple, but it is not easy. Today’s priest is always over scheduled often with two or three commitments at the same time or rushing from one appointment to the next.
This relentless pace contributes to burnout. Studies have indicated that priests need to take some time to step back, or even step out of their demanding roles. We are not suggesting a long sabbatical or retreat, but we are suggesting down time. Please, for your health, block out 15-30 minutes twice a day, preferably late morning and mid-afternoon. That needs to be sacrosanct on your schedule and should only be compromised by a call from your bishop or the Vatican! That mini break, where you take a walk, grab some coffee, say a few unhurried prayers or spend some time in contemplation will pay huge dividends to your mental health.
It is also important to have a scheduled day off that is never compromised. Find coverage and get away. Pick up a new hobby – hiking, golf, fishing, running, going to a game – anything that takes you away from your parish. The change in scenery, as well as the physical activity is an important break that both your mind and body need. The same goes for vacation. You do not need to go to some peaceful island or grand European destination, but you do need to change your environment. Visit family or friends. Get away with an old friend or even by yourself if you prefer, just get away.
On the other hand, isolation and loneliness can sometimes contribute to burnout. Obviously, this affects many priests who live alone in their rectory. Is it possible to set up a weekly dinner or lunch with fellow priests? A night out with those who best understand and can relate to your struggles can help. Just don’t let the night become a gripe session but one filled with productive and enjoyable dialogue.
Another suggestion is to join a group (consistent with your priestly values) where you are not known to be a priest. As an example, a cycling, hiking or running club that allows you to be just another member rather than a member from clergy can provide a respite from the daily demands on you.
Burnout is not a fatal diagnosis, but it should not be ignored because the long-term consequences of doing that can be fatal to your effectiveness as a priest. Please Father, self-care is critical.